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Your Profile
Sunday, November 22nd, 2009There are many online sites that will include counters so that you may see how many viewers look into your page every day. Some of the sites will even make the information public, that is when they will post your information for everyone to see. This will go without saying that the longer that you are a member the higher your number of views will be. However you may have noticed that others who may seem to be similar to you countless views every day while you simple get one or two of them. If you are serious about online dating and it is important to understand why you are not getting a large number of the views, you need to correct the problems. The more that view your profile, the more likely you will be to meet someone with the relationship that you want.
First of all, you will need to grab a person’s attention. Be certain that you have a location picked out so that when people use the search option based on location your name will appear on their list. Find out what the information is listed when you perform a search. Many dating websites will give the users the option to create a “headline” for their profiles and this as well as age and location is given to the searcher and they can choose to click on your name and continue on to your profile.
You should be sure that you have a picture uploaded. Many of the people will only consider contacting people who post pictures. If you do not have a picture on your profile, you will arouse suspicions of the other online daters. Otherwise it will seem like you have to hide. Any picture even if you consider one that is not so flattering, is better than none at all.
You should always write a creative headline and always worry about your user name. The headline “looking for a date” may not get many good views based on its generic qualities. However a headline like “Anyone want to go golfing?” shows that you have different interests and are up for a possible real life meeting. Your user name will work in much of the same way. Joel 123 will never get as many messages as EaglesFan2003. Make sure that your name and headline say something that you want them to know. However bring attention in a good way and stay away from disgusting sexual names and phrases, which are unattractive to most users and will show you in a light that may not be right.
As a final step, you need to reply to messages that you receive even if you are not interested. Many sites will list the percentages of messages that are viewed and how often you reply. Someone who sees that you only view 20% of your messages and even further only rely to 8% of them may be discouraged from giving you a message. However if you view 100% of your messages and reply to 85% of them, he or she may not be so shy.
You need to be honest, responsive, and creative. With some hard work your profile can gain the popularity that you see some others have. The more views that you get will mean that the more likely you are to meet online daters that have similar interests as you do. It is in your best interest to create an attention getter for your profile.
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Wednesday, November 18th, 2009The big controversy now in online dating is the background check dilemma. Many of the states are beginning to suggest legislation that would require online dating websites to perform background checks on its members or state if they do not. This is creating quite a stir in the online dating world and with members both for and against the online date background checking rules.
The complete controversy began when the online dating scene was still fresh. This happened with a website that signed an exclusive contract with the Internet’s largest background checking service so that members could be sure that they were not conversing with the criminals. This at first may seem like a good idea since it will protect online daters from sharing personal information with people that have been known for sexual offenders or have committed fraud or other types of criminal acts. However this website than began pushing legislation that would require online dating websites to perform background checks.
This website has an exclusive contract and they would then force other websites to use more expensive background checking tools, and so the subscription fees would be more expensive. This would be controversial and also created a lot of free advertising for the initial background checking website. To say the least, it was a way to rise above the competition. This however, did not come to light until many politicians had already jumped on with the background checking idea.
Checking a person’s background can be a good thing. It can prevent online scams from reoccurring and help people feel safe about using online dating websites. However it is also a type of invasion of privacy and many people will avoid online dating websites because they do not want a background check and people do change.
This is a situation that will be sure to be in the news for many years to come. There are already a few states that passed a law that will require background checks. Users and online dating websites do have mixed feeling about this and before you say your opinion you should be sure to understand both sides of the argument. Making background checks mandatory could create a better online dating service for everyone. However it could also mean that the free services would no longer be available and subscription services would be more expensive than they are now. To learn more about the online dating website background checks that are out there in your state, you need to contact your local legislator’s office and ask about multiple questions. You should voice your opinion and you can create change.
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Friday, November 13th, 2009So it’s Friday night again and you’re home alone without a date? Don’t worry! Today could be your last lonely Friday. You probably looked at some dating websites before and maybe even signed up for one. But when they asked you to pay for a membership you backed out, right? Well, I have great news for you! Matchmaker is currently offering a 3 day free gold membership (NO credit card needed). Yes, you read right, free gold membership. That means instead of paying your membership dues to be able to contact others you can do so for free for 3 days. But now you’re asking if 3 days are enough to find a date? Yes! But you must follow my steps as outlined below to get the most out of those 3 days.
Hold on! Don’t rush to the sign-up page just yet. Your 3 days start when you sign up. So I went ahead and did that already. I will now tell you what you will need so that when you sign up, you can start contacting other people instead of wasting the first day or two trying to get your profile right.
You will need a nice picture of yourself. Now this can be any picture that shows you, but a picture of you and your favorite pet or you doing your favorite hobby is best. Avoid pictures of you showing off your car! Use the picture that shows your face best as the first one to upload and add the others later to your profile. Profiles with pictures get much more responses than profiles without!
Next you will need a headline, something that summarizes either who you are or what you are looking for. Keep this positive! Avoid words like “lonely” or “broken heart”. No one wants a problem child. Choose something positive like “outdoor enthusiast looking for a new hiking partner”.
Write a few sentences of something fun and interesting that you do around where you live. You could say something like: Here in my small town I love going to the park and feeding the ducks. Add some more details to make this at least 4 to 5 sentences.
Write a few sentences of something you would like to do on your date. Be honest and mention what you want: On a date I would love to go to the local history museum and check out their new exhibit. Just be honest here. There’s no right or wrong. It should be something you like to do so you feel comfortable with a new person. Choose a public place for the first date!
You need to write a short paragraph to describe yourself. This is easier than you think. Start with “Hi, my name is …” and say who you are. Are you a writer, truck driver, Walmart cashier or a nurse? If you have a pet, say so. Mention a few things you like to do in your spare time. If it turns out short, add a few more things like where you spent your most favorite vacation or where you plan your next one. If you have kids, mention them! This will filter out all the people who are not looking for someone with kids. That will save you time sorting through them! Don’t exaggerate, be honest. And most important of all, only say positive things! Don’t ever say “I hate …”. That’s negative!
Next, write a short paragraph about who you are looking for. This can be in the same format that you described yourself. If you have an age limit, mention it. Are you looking for someone taller than you? Do you want your significant other to have certain hobbies?
Have all this ready before you sign up! Now that you have written your info, go to Matchmaker through this link to get the 3 days of free gold membership.
Don’t skip any steps! And answer questions honestly. You do not want to create a wrong impression or attract people who think you are someone that you are not. The only question I suggest not to answer is the income question. You don’t want people to choose or not choose you based on your income. And that’s something you can tell a closer friend later, not before and not on the first date!
Also, un-select the box where it asks if you want to receive offers from third parties. Leaving that box checked will just get you more email advertising.
After you signed up, log in to your profile. Click on “in my own words” and enter the headline, about me and who you are looking for. Click on photos and upload more photos if you have some. Your photos will not show up right away. Matchmaker will check to make sure they don’t violate their policies. Pictures should be of you, not some object.
Once you’re picture is approved, you’re good to go. But you don’t have to wait. You can go ahead and search for people in your area and send them a flirt to show interest. With the 3 day free trial there will be a lot of people in your area signing up. So this is a good time to try this out. Go ahead, sign up for free and find a date now! And next Friday you’ll be out having fun!
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