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In Preparation for the Big Date . . .

Monday, November 30th, 2009
In Preparation for the Big Date . . .

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After the invitation to have a date with you, yes you could rejoice a bit but this must not take you for so long, you need to prepare for the day, the real day that you have been wishing for to arrive. Your preparation matters most. When you do not know what exactly to do, let us lend you our guides.

These are the tips that would surely let you walk the right path for the date you have pictured out:

* Set an early date for that date.

When you set such a date weeks after, it could just make your patience brittle and it would just pile up stress unto you. At first, you may feel that excitement inside you but as the days grow longer, you may get more and more impatient.

* Choose a less formal venue

For the first date, it would not be too comfortable if you choose a place where you would feel stuffy. Better have in mind a venue that is less formal but more fun. The too much formality thing may just stop you from getting to know each other well.

* Lunch time for the first time.

To all those who are having a “get to know each other date”, it is advisable to have an early date so that rushing plans to make the time special may not happen. There could still be that romantic touch though the sun is out. Evening dates may come after the first date.

* Think more of the person not the place.

Pressures about the venue, the food to order and the clothes you would wear. These are just secondary and they do not have to post so much pressure on you. If you allow this to happen, you would surely get carried away with the pressures and forget the real purpose of the date.

* Informal but not scruffy

As mentioned above, you have to choose a venue that is less formal but it does not mean that it has to be scruffy and you do not have to look as one scruffy thing as well. Look presentable though not that very formal.

* Your wealth is not the topic

There are a lot of fun and light things to talk about, do not brag about what you or your parents have. This would not be so nice for a topic that may just spoil the rest of the time. Humility would surely be a ticket to more dates.

These are just some of the many tips you need to have in your heart so that you would also have those good memories to be brought about by the great date you have. Of course, you have your own way of making this day special too.

In Preparation for the Big Date . . .

What it takes for a date of a lifetime

Tuesday, November 17th, 2009
What it takes for a date of a lifetime

Firsts, these are very memorable events you could not deny. They may come in very varied ways but they share that common effect which is something that stays within the person. First date, what do you think about it? When the time comes that you are about to experience it or even not just the first but any romantic date for that matter, you have to carry with you tips that could make that one ordinary night or time that would let you reminisce it even years after.

* Relax as the date starts; get a drink for both of you if you see the need of doing so. But of course it has to go with a very nice conversation for this is what really matters. A fine start would surely carry the positive vibes all throughout the moment.

* Be attentive, and this does not involve the ears, you need to observe those unspoken words and signs from the other person. Be sensitive, it really matters a lot.

* Do not think about the event in a very serious demeanor. It may just put you under so much pressure. Think of the fact that you are here to get to know each other, have the best time and make the most out of the special event of your lives.

* Avoid dominating the conversation especially for men. Make it sure that your voice volume is in moderation and you talk with the person in a sincere manner. When you do this, you would be listened to not only on that very time but in more conversations to come. You have to remember that generally people love it when others listen to them.

* No discussions about ex-partners and of course about sex. This goes out both ways, no matter how the other person tempts you, be reminded that when out on a date, and you are in a conversation about such matters, less is more.

* Give the singular focus to your date. Do not be too distracted with other people around you, no matter how attractive the woman in at the next table is. Any person likes that attention from the opposite sex. Keep focused.

* Be witty. This is the most attractive point you could flaunt to your date. Nothing beats having a really fun but wholesome conversation. You have to think of the fact that the date you have this time around would be your ticket to the next date or dates. So, do well, let go of those light and gay thoughts.

These reminders would let you try to check and recheck if you are doing the right thing and you are indeed doing what is right and what is impressive for your date and for the event as a whole. The following are tips that would let you get the best scores during the very date.

And, the best reminder you could give yourself is “I am confident, I am going to have fun and I am going to meet the one.”

What it takes for a date of a lifetime

Three Keys to the most unforgettable date

Monday, November 16th, 2009
Three Keys to the most unforgettable date

Dating is such a fun experience for whatever age it is, there is that different feeling of fulfillment and sheer joy as you meet a person you seem to have interest with. This is a means of finding your future life partner. It could also be a way of getting to know you better for through dating, the side of yourself that you are less familiar with is being unraveled.

When one is out on a date, what must he do in order to make the date worth a memory to cherish? Are there strict guidelines to follow? There are actually none, but there could be helpful tips in order for you to make the most out of your date. These tips are really important so that you would be able to act well and enjoy the rest of the time you have with that special person.

  • Observe punctuality.

Time matters in almost any meeting or activity, it matters most in a date especially if it is the first date. Cliché as it may seem but first impressions last and you have to take good care of your date’s impression of you. It may mean something negative if you fail to arrive on time. You may have all the excuses, but you have to show the best efforts in order not to be late.

  • Remind yourself that you are just excited and not nervous

That strange pump of your heart is just going to distract you from doing well and enjoying your time. Well, it is but normal to feel that way but do not allow it to swallow you and stop you from doing the things you wanted to do. If you cannot stand the feeling, see to it that you divert that emotion to something that is more positive. Instead of feeling nervous, you have to remind yourself that you are just excited. This could really help you ease the burden of being worried or pressured. Being nervous does not help out, drop it off.

  • Honesty is still the best policy

You do not have to impress your date by telling tall tales. Sincerity and honesty would always lead you to that acceptance from others. With your honest way of opening yourself to that person you choose to go out with, you would surely reap a warm and honest treatment as well. You could appear impressive without being dishonest. When you are true to what you say and feel, it exudes.

These are just three of the most helpful tips that could make heaven out of your date. Remember, it is the first step to find that lifetime partner you have been waiting for. For more tips, you could find them online. But for the best three tips, stick with our advice.

Three Keys to the most unforgettable date

Home alone on Friday night? No more!

Friday, November 13th, 2009
Home alone on Friday night? No more!

So it’s Friday night again and you’re home alone without a date? Don’t worry! Today could be your last lonely Friday. You probably looked at some dating websites before and maybe even signed up for one. But when they asked you to pay for a membership you backed out, right? Well, I have great news for you! Matchmaker is currently offering a 3 day free gold membership (NO credit card needed). Yes, you read right, free gold membership. That means instead of paying your membership dues to be able to contact others you can do so for free for 3 days. But now you’re asking if 3 days are enough to find a date? Yes! But you must follow my steps as outlined below to get the most out of those 3 days.

Hold on! Don’t rush to the sign-up page just yet. Your 3 days start when you sign up. So I went ahead and did that already. I will now tell you what you will need so that when you sign up, you can start contacting other people instead of wasting the first day or two trying to get your profile right.

You will need a nice picture of yourself. Now this can be any picture that shows you, but a picture of you and your favorite pet or you doing your favorite hobby is best. Avoid pictures of you showing off your car! Use the picture that shows your face best as the first one to upload and add the others later to your profile. Profiles with pictures get much more responses than profiles without!

Next you will need a headline, something that summarizes either who you are or what you are looking for. Keep this positive! Avoid words like “lonely” or “broken heart”. No one wants a problem child. Choose something positive like “outdoor enthusiast looking for a new hiking partner”.

Write a few sentences of something fun and interesting that you do around where you live. You could say something like: Here in my small town I love going to the park and feeding the ducks. Add some more details to make this at least 4 to 5 sentences.

Write a few sentences of something you would like to do on your date. Be honest and mention what you want: On a date I would love to go to the local history museum and check out their new exhibit. Just be honest here. There’s no right or wrong. It should be something you like to do so you feel comfortable with a new person. Choose a public place for the first date!

You need to write a short paragraph to describe yourself. This is easier than you think. Start with “Hi, my name is …” and say who you are. Are you a writer, truck driver, Walmart cashier or a nurse? If you have a pet, say so. Mention a few things you like to do in your spare time. If it turns out short, add a few more things like where you spent your most favorite vacation or where you plan your next one. If you have kids, mention them! This will filter out all the people who are not looking for someone with kids. That will save you time sorting through them! Don’t exaggerate, be honest. And most important of all, only say positive things! Don’t ever say “I hate …”. That’s negative!

Next, write a short paragraph about who you are looking for. This can be in the same format that you described yourself. If you have an age limit, mention it. Are you looking for someone taller than you? Do you want your significant other to have certain hobbies?

Have all this ready before you sign up! Now that you have written your info, go to Matchmaker through this link to get the 3 days of free gold membership.

Don’t skip any steps! And answer questions honestly. You do not want to create a wrong impression or attract people who think you are someone that you are not. The only question I suggest not to answer is the income question. You don’t want people to choose or not choose you based on your income. And that’s something you can tell a closer friend later, not before and not on the first date!

Also, un-select the box where it asks if you want to receive offers from third parties. Leaving that box checked will just get you more email advertising.

After you signed up, log in to your profile. Click on “in my own words” and enter the headline, about me and who you are looking for. Click on photos and upload more photos if you have some. Your photos will not show up right away. Matchmaker will check to make sure they don’t violate their policies. Pictures should be of you, not some object.

Once you’re picture is approved, you’re good to go. But you don’t have to wait. You can go ahead and search for people in your area and send them a flirt to show interest. With the 3 day free trial there will be a lot of people in your area signing up. So this is a good time to try this out. Go ahead, sign up for free and find a date now! And next Friday you’ll be out having fun!

Home alone on Friday night? No more!

How to Ask Someone Out on a Date

Friday, November 13th, 2009
How to Ask Someone Out on a Date

No more hesitations, this is the moment you have been dreaming of and only you could push it to reality. But, how could you have that dream date? Of course, you have to start from the top. And, that is to ask the person you are interested out on a date. Well, how could you invite a person out? Do you need to be aggressive? Do you need to play safe? Tips to ask someone out would surely be a great help for you.

The following are simple but very essential tips you could lean on in times that you seem to find it hard asking a person for a date. For men, these tips are really great help for you invite that person in your mind.

  • Know the right reason or reasons for asking a person out. When you know your purpose, it would surely have the idea of how to express it in a medium that you are most comfortable with.

  • What if the person says no? Save that part of you and prepare to whatever the answer of the other person is. Do not take the “no” so heavily. Learn the beauty of grace in such times.

  • In order to say well the words you want to express, you may try to do some practicing in order for you to get conditioned of how to say such lines you needed to tell the person you want to be with.

  • Be sure that you have the most important details you have for the date in mind. The person might say “yes” and you just do not know where to go, that would be a real “turn off”. As much as possible, be ready with ideas.

  • See to it that you know how to answer whenever the person asks you why you are asking her out. You do not have to be a very huge flatterer but you have to make sure that you make the person feel good. This way of showing how much thoughtful you are.

  • Never pressure a person to go out with you. This is not healthy and it would even branch out to negative outcomes. Remember not to pressure a person to tell you why it is a “no”.

  • Do not stand people up. This means that when you ask a person out, you mean it and you do not leave her just expecting for nothing at all.

  • If the person says no, do not be bitter about it. You just have to move on and never treat the person unwell.

  • Having some beer just to boost your confidence is a no. It may just push you to worse situations. You have to be naturally confident.

  • The more, the merrier but not for a first date. When you are out to ask a person for a date, do not do it when she is with a circle of friends.

These are really useful tips and you have to take note of them, they would surely help you out in maximizing the time you spend with that special person.

How to Ask Someone Out on a Date
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