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Getting to know that special woman is about the time you spend with her, and about what you get from communication, both verbal and physical. And the more you know, the better your chances. Thus if you plan to keep your relationship moving forward, you are going to have to find out as much as you can about her.

After all, the last thing you want to do is to upset her. That’s a surefire way to kill your chances for romance. First, make sure you give her a chance not only to speak, but to start conversations as well. There is really no better way to get to know her than through the interaction you’ll have with her in conversation. What you learn through all of this communication will serve as a great starting point, from which you can move on to the following suggestions to fill in any blanks in your knowledge of her.

The point of all of this is to get to know as much as you can about your woman as an individual. So many people think that all women or all men like the same things, which simply is not true.

Although there are a good number of things that a lot of women have in common, there are an equal number of things that they don’t have in common, either. The same can be said for men. For example, if a woman were to assume that all men love football then she’d be dead wrong! Likewise, a man would be wrong to assume that all women love cats. Each woman is unique, so you must take the time to find out what she, as a unique person, really wants before you can seduce her.

Ultimately, it all comes back to what you can learn about her for yourself. While it is helpful to get a few tips from her friends, family, and acquaintances, too much of this type of fact-finding will make her feel more like a suspect in an investigation. So it’s back to what you can find out for yourself. And the best possible way to do that is to get her in different settings and see what happens.

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Communication is such an important factor in all relationships, business and personal alike, that it should come as no surprise that we need to discuss it here as well. What is communication, after all? It is the two-way interaction that occurs, both verbally and non-verbally. What is said with actions is as important, if not more so, than what is said with words. But here we’re going to focus our attention on the importance of verbal communication and what it will mean for your relationship. Keep in mind that when I talk about how things affect your relationship, I’m mainly concerned with your success in the realm of seduction.

Communication with words is something we all do on a daily basis. But, just like when you’re asked to give an impromptu speech, being asked to communicate in a particular situation just makes many of you cringe, lock up, and find yourself at a loss for words. Why? Mainly because when you have to think about what to say, you suddenly become concerned about what you’re saying. But if you just let it happen without any expectations, somehow everything works out a whole lot better.

That being said, think of your past relationships and where communication failed you. Was it something you said in a particular conversation that you came to regret later? Or was it something she said that you either treated as unimportant or simply didn’t hear at all? Or could it have been a time when you should have said something to her, but didn’t, and the results were equally regrettable? Surely all of these have happened to nearly everyone at one time or another. The trick is to not let these past failures define how you communicate now and in the future of your current relationship.

Talking is something we all think about when we hear the word ‘communication’. But, unfortunately, that first thought is the wrong one if you’re looking for a good relationship with potential for romance. Talking will get you nowhere, and worse, it may cause things to fall backward or even to fall apart. When you talk, you’re expecting someone else to listen.

But what about the listener? When does she get the chance to be heard? That’s why it’s so much better to change your view from one of simply talking, to one where you see communication as the carrying on of a conversation.

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Question: I recently started dating a guy I’ve known for a few years. It was going well, if anything a bit fast–he already started to talk about moving into my house and taking vacations together. Yesterday, he gave me a call that said he wasn’t ready for anything serious, and that he didn’t want me to be hurt if we broke up, but that he had strong feelings for me and was feeling closer, so anything was possible. He asked if I was interested in having kids and getting married someday, and when I said I couldn’t envision that, he said that could change. I really don’t get it. We talk on the phone several times a day–four times on the day he gave me that call, and he stopped by my department at work twice that day to say hi. He seems to be the one pushing for more interaction, and yet now he’s saying it’s too much. He’s also said he could see himself getting serious about me. To put this into some perspective, he is just coming off of a divorce. We do have a great time when we’re out together, but I’m utterly confused by all this inconsistency. Your thoughts?

Answer: I was going to answer forget about him and find someone more mature and ready for a serious relationship. Then I read about the divorce at the end. So it sounds like he might really be serious about you, just not yet. I have the feeling he wants to enjoy is freedom after the divorce for a little before jumping into another serious relationship.

That is understandable, however, it depends on what that freedom means. Does he want to go and have other girlfriends for a while and then settle down with you? Or does he just want to take things slow?

There’s nothing wrong with taking things slow. And as long as you spend time together, you do have a relationship. Without a serious commitment, you should set boundaries though and not cross them. One thing that comes to mind is unprotected sex. You do need a serious fully committed relationship for that. There might be another limits you can set. After all, if he does not get all serious with you, he can not have all of your benefits.

I do want to mention one thing though. If his idea of freedom means other women, don’t tolerate that. If he does not consider you worthy of a serious relationship now, he can’t expect you to sit around waiting for him.

So it does not matter if you call it serious or marriage or something, as long as he’s not seeing other women, he is yours and yours alone, no matter how much he is willing to commit.

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