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Meeting Safely

Friday, November 20th, 2009

When you are able to hold different conversations with someone online, you may both decide that meeting in real life would be good. A lot of date options are available to help break the ice. However it is important to remember that you must put your safety first. Both people but especially females should be exceptionally careful when they are meeting strangers. No matter how long you have spoken online, you have to remember that it is still someone that you do not know well enough to trust in certain situations. Use common sense when you are meeting someone in person for the first time ever.

First, you should suggest that the date take place in a very public area. Restaurants are a great place to start and give you a chance to talk to more than a movie date will. You can also suggest that you go to other public places as long as they are not too secluded. Concerts work well for example but walks in the park are not recommended since there are often wooded areas in which your date and you will be alone.

You should also suggest a date that will occur during the daytime rather than at night. You will be able to see one another much better and it is less dangerous and less likely that a predator could victimize you in the daytime since there are other people around. In either case, always find a good common meeting ground for your date. It is dangerous to get into a car with someone that you have not met. Remember that it is easy to lie online. It is easy to continue to lie in person as well. You have to get to know the person as well as his or her friends, family and co-workers so that you can learn to have trust in each other.

You should also try a group date. Invite one or two of your friends and have your date do the same. You can then go to a number of places such as an amusement park or a shopping mall. Your friends will then carefully monitor the situation so that you are sure to be safe. There is always safety in numbers. If you are not taking your friends, you should tell someone where you are going and when you should be back. Always carry a cell phone to be sure.

When you are feeling more comfortable with a person you can move on to more secluded dates. However remember to keep your guard up at all times until you know the person in real life as well as online. Many people will become victims of rape, kidnap, and even murder all the time and a number of situat8ions stem from predators meeting their victims online. Use good common sense when you are meeting someone for the first time so that you are not another statistic to read about.

Get them excited on the First Date

Saturday, November 7th, 2009

When you have been talking to someone online for a time you both may decide to take the next step with a real life date. Online dating can be very beneficial but without a good connection in real life, you cannot move onto something more with long lasting potential. Many people are concerned about moving from online dating to dating in real life. It can be very dangerous. Online daters also need to worry about the other person not being honest about them. The best thing that you can do is to simply give it a shot. In the dating world, you will experience many failures but it is possible to have a good and true relationship if you try hard. The first date with an online friend can be nerve racking so you have to be sure to get the other person excited about meeting you.

First it is a good idea to plan a first date that will take place in a public place. It is easy to lie online and you do not want to find yourself to be a victim of an online predator. To be safe, you need to suggest meeting at the place of the date instead of getting into a vehicle with someone you do not know. Plan a date for the daytime and it is usually a good idea to have very little alcohol involved. If you are still not sure about meeting for security reasons, you should suggest a group date where each of you brings a few different friends.

There are a number of good date ideas that you can use for your first date. You should always have a meal at a good restaurant or go to the movies. However when you are eating or watching a film it is difficult to get to now another person. You can suggest a date based on common interests that attracted you to the other person in the first place. For example if you both enjoy sports, you can go to a baseball game or playing golf. If you like the outdoor adventures you can plan a first date at a rock-climbing place. For more quiet dates, you can meet at a coffee house or listen to a soft music concert.

The most important thing to remember about a date is to make sure that each person is comfortable. If you are both having a bad time and it is obvious, it is not inappropriate to suggest leaving early. However if you both are having a great time, you may want to extend the date to another activity after the first date has ended. Leave the first date open because not every person will have a connection with you. You need to be prepared for both success and failure.