Amanda Mason Online

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So it’s Friday night again and you’re home alone without a date? Don’t worry! Today could be your last lonely Friday. You probably looked at some dating websites before and maybe even signed up for one. But when they asked you to pay for a membership you backed out, right? Well, I have great news for you! Matchmaker is currently offering a 3 day free gold membership (NO credit card needed). Yes, you read right, free gold membership. That means instead of paying your membership dues to be able to contact others you can do so for free for 3 days. But now you’re asking if 3 days are enough to find a date? Yes! But you must follow my steps as outlined below to get the most out of those 3 days.

Hold on! Don’t rush to the sign-up page just yet. Your 3 days start when you sign up. So I went ahead and did that already. I will now tell you what you will need so that when you sign up, you can start contacting other people instead of wasting the first day or two trying to get your profile right.

You will need a nice picture of yourself. Now this can be any picture that shows you, but a picture of you and your favorite pet or you doing your favorite hobby is best. Avoid pictures of you showing off your car! Use the picture that shows your face best as the first one to upload and add the others later to your profile. Profiles with pictures get much more responses than profiles without!

Next you will need a headline, something that summarizes either who you are or what you are looking for. Keep this positive! Avoid words like “lonely” or “broken heart”. No one wants a problem child. Choose something positive like “outdoor enthusiast looking for a new hiking partner”.

Write a few sentences of something fun and interesting that you do around where you live. You could say something like: Here in my small town I love going to the park and feeding the ducks. Add some more details to make this at least 4 to 5 sentences.

Write a few sentences of something you would like to do on your date. Be honest and mention what you want: On a date I would love to go to the local history museum and check out their new exhibit. Just be honest here. There’s no right or wrong. It should be something you like to do so you feel comfortable with a new person. Choose a public place for the first date!

You need to write a short paragraph to describe yourself. This is easier than you think. Start with “Hi, my name is …” and say who you are. Are you a writer, truck driver, Walmart cashier or a nurse? If you have a pet, say so. Mention a few things you like to do in your spare time. If it turns out short, add a few more things like where you spent your most favorite vacation or where you plan your next one. If you have kids, mention them! This will filter out all the people who are not looking for someone with kids. That will save you time sorting through them! Don’t exaggerate, be honest. And most important of all, only say positive things! Don’t ever say “I hate …”. That’s negative!

Next, write a short paragraph about who you are looking for. This can be in the same format that you described yourself. If you have an age limit, mention it. Are you looking for someone taller than you? Do you want your significant other to have certain hobbies?

Have all this ready before you sign up! Now that you have written your info, go to Matchmaker through this link to get the 3 days of free gold membership.

Don’t skip any steps! And answer questions honestly. You do not want to create a wrong impression or attract people who think you are someone that you are not. The only question I suggest not to answer is the income question. You don’t want people to choose or not choose you based on your income. And that’s something you can tell a closer friend later, not before and not on the first date!

Also, un-select the box where it asks if you want to receive offers from third parties. Leaving that box checked will just get you more email advertising.

After you signed up, log in to your profile. Click on “in my own words” and enter the headline, about me and who you are looking for. Click on photos and upload more photos if you have some. Your photos will not show up right away. Matchmaker will check to make sure they don’t violate their policies. Pictures should be of you, not some object.

Once you’re picture is approved, you’re good to go. But you don’t have to wait. You can go ahead and search for people in your area and send them a flirt to show interest. With the 3 day free trial there will be a lot of people in your area signing up. So this is a good time to try this out. Go ahead, sign up for free and find a date now! And next Friday you’ll be out having fun!

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I’m sure you want your date to have fun and you want to have fun, too! You want to ensure that the conversation is interesting and stimulating to both of you.
Body language always speaks first in any conversation. When you are confident your body relaxes, becomes more open, you lean in, you smile, and you become more animated. When you are tense or not at ease with yourself, you will be sitting back, crossing your legs, maybe your arms, your mouth will barely break a smile, and your eyes will be searching elsewhere in the room. Knowing this will allow you to convey confidence with your body language.

Your verbal dating conversation skills will largely be judged on how able you are to create a conversation that your partner enjoys. Ultimately, that leads to you getting more dates. If you’re thinking this is obvious, yes it is! The question is HOW to create an interesting conversation.

Your dating conversation will be made up of you both asking and answering questions. If you ask the right questions, your partner is going to have fun. If you ask the wrong questions, they are going to ditch you. If you are evasive or less than honest when answering her questions, she is going to ditch you quicker.

Questions are powerful. Funny thing is that when a person is asked a direct question they somehow feel obligated to answer it. Here are some conversation starter question ideas for your first date:

“What do you love to do in your spare time?”
“What do you particularly enjoy about that?”
“If you could go on a fantasy holiday, anywhere in the world, where would it be and what would you do?”

By asking these questions you will cause your date to recall pleasant past experiences and share them with you.

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